“If the world only sees the fox as shifty and untrustworthy, there’s no point in being anything else.” I felt so sad for Nicholas P. Wilde in Zootopia. Though naturally, rabbits really can’t trust foxes. Foxes and Rabbits are two different species. One is predator, the other is prey.
Moms and dads, you and your children are the same species. You gotta trust ’em. I hear parents (mostly moms) say all the time that they read and follow everything their kid does on social media. That alone would be a full-time job. I have a full-time job, and my own social media outlets to keep up with 😜. “Get a life”, I say. One mom told me I wasn’t a good parent if I didn’t read my kid’s text messages, or check their phone records to see who they talk to, etc., etc., etc.
The number of times I looked at my kids’ phones? (0) ZERO. The number of times I checked either of my kids’ backpacks? (0) ZERO. Well, Unless my son said he turned something in, and I found out he really didn’t. Or that time I smelled something really stinky, and traced it to his backpack, and it turned out to be his dirty PE clothes. (Now I’m telling on myself, because we didn’t wash them everyday) Who does that? Who has the time? Anyway, I’ve chased a rabbit.
My daughter came home for something she forgot before going out once while visiting a couple of friends. She was wearing a mini-skirt/loincloth. Her “friend” let her borrow it because she, the “friend”, felt like she wasn’t dressed inappropriately enough to go wherever it was they were going. She definitely wasn’t trying to hide it from me, but I decided I couldn’t trust her to hang with that particular group of girls. I promptly sat her down and told her she had to change clothes. I continued the conversation; telling her, “the people you hang out with now (2002 at the time), will define the kind of person you become as an adult.” She wasn’t exactly happy at the time, but thanked me later. She didn’t hang out with those two very much after that.
We must trust our children if we want them to be trustworthy. If your child does something to cause you to suspect them, by all means, check things out, but until then, trust them. You’ll save yourselves a lot of heartache in the long run.
Remember the old “Train up a child” bible verse? A different version than King James reads like this: Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it all their life. ~ Proverbs 22:6 (GNT) That doesn’t mean your child will be perfect, and will always follow the rules. It does mean, however, that raising your children in a godly manner gives them a really good idea of what it would mean for them to choose God’s way of life, when the time comes for them to make a choice. Children raised in a home that puts God above everything else will have the opportunity to see His way of life in action on a daily basis. They might get off course, but they will never forget what their parents taught them, that they trusted them, and they treated them with respect.
Judy eventually came to trust Nick P. Wilde in Zootopia. Until given a reason not to, parents should naturally trust their children.